The Rules of Engagement (Parties)

If you've decided to have an engagement party, then you've got some plannin' to do.  Since part of the reason for throwing an engagement party is to announce upcoming union to friends and family- you don't want wait too long.  Mama suggests that you have your engagement party within three months of the proposal. Hey, you wouldn't want to forget any details of how he popped the question- would you?  Of course not.  You may not be throwing your own engagement party, as many times the parents of the bride will want to take the reigns on this one.  If that is the case- let them- but make sure they read Mama's tips before getting started!

Mama's Top Ten Tips For Planning The Engagement Party

1. Have a handle on the wedding guest list.  You must be mindful of the fact that everyone that is invited to the engagement party, must also be invited to the wedding.  
2. Keep it simple.  Don't forget- you have a wedding to plan.  There is not reason why the introductory celebration should in any way compete.
3. Toast to the happy couple.  If you are throwing the party you should be ready to give a toast.  If the couple is throwing their own party- they too should offer a toast.  As the couple, you should offer a toast thanking your guests for sharing in your moment.  
4. Decide on gifts.  Gifts are not required at an engagement party, as a matter of fact some people specifically indicate that they do not wish to receive gifts at the engagement party.  But still, this will get your guests thinking about what types of things you'll want.  So, although you may not advertise it, it may be a good idea to set up your bridal registry prior to the engagement party. 
5. Create a budget.  Yes. Even the engagement party needs a budget.  Make it easy by jotting down a list of main categories:  invitations, food, drink, entertainment, and decor.  Decide on a total amount you are willing to spend in each category- and stick to it.  Easy, right?
6. The invitations don't have to be formal.  Again, there is no need to compete with the wedding here- so have fun with it.  You could even create a cute invitation using a picture of the happy couple. 
7. Get the tacky out of your system now.  There is no reason to go broke trying to decorate for the engagement party.  It might not be couth to have streamers, balloons and plastic champagne flutes at your wedding reception- but it is perfectly acceptable (and encouraged) at the engagement party. 
8. Location.  Where will you be having the engagement party?  You could invite your guests to a restaurant, a barbecue on the beach, or a get together in your home.  It is entirely up to you.  Well, almost entirely- you'll have to of course consult with the budget. 
9. Food.  Try to stick to keeping the engagement party simple.  Finger foods, and small plates are a perfect selection.  And don't forget the beverages- beer, wine, soda and coffee are a must (and all are party staples).  
10. Remember what it is all about.  Whether you are having a formal party or a casual get together- don't lose sight as to what it is you celebrating.  The engagement party is a celebration of commitment and love.